am i really that lowly that people around me cannot treat me with basic respect? i mean i can understand it if my parents were to nag a little and talk as if i am kid cos i AM a kid to them.. always has been... and will be.. tat is understandable cos they've seen my in my diapers.. take my first step.. utter my first words etc etc.. they've given me guidance and support throughout the years and to be honest.. i can say that its their god given right to sometimes still talk to me like a kid and dun really respect my point of view.. although i dun like it a single bit.. i can still accept it when circumstances like this come my way..
but to be shown an utter lack of respect from friends, colleagues.. tat is another story altogether.. its not a nice feeling.. tat i can tell you for sure.. why is it so hard for someone to let me finish whatever i want to say before he or she cuts me off? even my boss at work right now whose style i can barely agree with let me finish my piece before he comment.. although he will rubbish almost half of my ideas.. i appreciate the time and space that he actually gives me to throw up these ideas in the first place.. with frens.. i seldom have tat problem but i guess its becos we treat each other with respect.. view each other as equals and treasure each other's opinion and point of view.. we see each other as peers and equals and there's only one member of the clan that has problems playing by these rules and that fella has kinda disappeared from my radar.. albeit for a somehow unrelated event.. the basic thing is.. i do not agree with his style.. i take offence with his behaviour and i do not wish to be present when he throws his unwarranted weight and justifications around to bulldoze his way in a conversation.. at work.. this would be grossly unprofessional and working with such an arse would be a pain in the same area!!
been quite bothered by it all which is why i took some time off to read up on communication, conversation and listening skills on the net.. i do realise i am guilty of some of the negative behaviour pointed out by the various authors.. but with all due respect, and pls pardon the pun.. i think i do extend and portray a certain level of respect to pple whom i am sharing a conversation with.. ah.. i think i hit the nail on its head here.. SHARING a conversation.. its not a monologue at the end of the day eh? which brings to mind some rather serious questions.... so why oh why can't my partner understand this and let me have my say? does my opinion not matter at all? does she have a problem respecting me? if the answers are yes.. i think we have a serious fundamental problem here...
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